Rain mother
Posted by: Tharani on: May 15, 2012
When I woke up today morning, I woke up to the lovely rain. I love rain and I love my mother, for both are unpredictable. In spite of all the weather telecast, “Vaanam megha mootamaga kaana padum, enum 24 mani nerathuku balatha mazhai peiyum”, rain has mostly proved everything wrong. It is very difficult to predict when it will rain, It is very difficult to find out what my mother is thinking. Call me a bad daughter. But then she has a very plain face. There may be a thousand thoughts behind that face, but it shows nothing. Few years back, a friend of mine asked me,”How can you be so cool, Is there something that you worry about in life at all”, I just smiled. Because I worry about a lot of things, a lot more than an average Indian women worry about. But my face is plain too. I am like my mother.
There are two ways of bringing up children. One-You teach them everything, two-You let them learn everything, all by themselves.The second category is very risky, for you should have enormous trust in your children. My parents let us lose, let us lose from the day we were born. I hated that way of growing up. I wondered why my mother doesn’t tell my stories, advised me what life is because I had to learn everything myself, in the hardest way. I have never seen my mother, asking me to study. All she wanted from me was to sleep. She used to say,you will never know how much you will sleep, when you grow up. So go sleep. She will never wake us even when we are sleeping in the odd hours of the day.
When it was time to talk about AV to my mother, I was scared. I kept telling my friends that I have to convince her. But when I told about AV, she had only three questions to ask me, “Is this one-sided or does he love you too”, “Does his parents know about it”, “Does he have any bad habits” thats all and he was accepted. There, she proved me wrong again.
During the initial days of our marriage, I used to fight a lot. I mean a lot. At one point of time, I had to do some self-analysis to keep the marriage going. Then I realized, I fight because I expected AV to be like my mother. Like the way she care for me, like the way she takes care of me. I hit my head hard and had to say to myself, “Listen, Tharani. AV can never take the place of your mom. Just stop expecting from him”. And what do you think, our fights lessened. No way. We fight for different reasons altogether now and its about time for my next self-analysis.
The only piece of advise that I got from my mother from the day I was born is, “Don’t ever leave your job after marriage. Money isn’t anything but without money there isn’t anything”.
When I asked my mother what she wanted for mothers days, in spite of her severe tooth ache,she said, “Chocolates” just like me. I haven’t got her the chocolates yet. When I called her up today,she asked, “Where are my chocolates di”. She is becoming my baby.
When I finished writing this, the rain has stopped. I love rain even when it is not raining. As I stand in the balcony thinking about my mother, I smile. Just like the thought of rain would make me smile.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!
P.S: This post was supposed to be published on sunday. But then ….
Cuteness over loaded-K,K & SnS times
Posted by: Tharani on: May 1, 2012
When SnS mailed saying she is coming to Chennai for a month, I instantly got ready for my next blog meet. But then, I was waiting, waiting and waiting for her to call me once she reached Chennai, it didn’t seem to happen at all. After almost some 20 days or so and a long wait, she considered meeting me and sent an SMS saying we can meet. Habba, ,”Finally” I thought and made a couple of calls to confirm the timing and venue. I was confused as where to meet her but then when on one of our calls, she said, she can only come and it is difficult for her to bring the kids along, I immediately fixed the venue-Her house. What you think, the long wait was for, ofcourse to meet Keer and Kau.
So the plan was finally made and she asked me to come to her place by 2, so that her mom will also be at home. But then what are cute, bubbly younger sisters are for? (Don’t look at me like that, She called me so..Go go read her account) , to take the life out of elder sisters right?.. I landed in her house two hours early not bothering to give her any explanation as why I am so early.
She being so sweet invited me to her house. And Kau came running to me and said, “I have cut mangoes for you”. AND no,he didn’t call me Vasu Pati.. Err ok he did call me that and when I was about to faint,SnS consoled me saying since their visit to the MIL’s place,he is addressing everybody as Vasu pati.
When Keer refused to say hi or talk to me, Kau was talking non-stop about how he fell, “TAPP” in his pati’s house and how we played,”TAPP” in the beech and how he “TAPP” blowed the bubbles. My heart just melted away “TAPP” by the way he spoke.
Keer knows her priorities and what she wants. She got busy with the play doh and then with drawing. Kau wants what Keer wants, The pencil she is drawing with, her play doh,the note-book. It was indeed cute watching them and it was even more cuter watching the mom. While she was trying to divert the kids from the play doh, she was also trying to attend me and was multi-tasking. Suddenly she said something and when I looked at her amused, she said, “Oh,I am trying to talk to my mom, Its been long since I spoke to her”. She was not only multi-tasking, she was multi-talking, to me, the kids and her mom. It was even more funnier watching her.
And her mom, what can I say. She is such an adorable woman, who came back from work by 2’o clock in the hot hot sun and immediately went to cut mangoes and cucumber for me. Isn’t she sweet??
It was so wonderful meeting them and when the entire family came down to bid good-bye, I just kept saying, “Nan poitu varen” (I am taking leave) for almost four to five time with a “alpa aasai” that they will call me back in and we will start our chat all over again. But then, there is always a next time.So Sns, even though, you are a wonderful host, a super cute friend, an awesome mother but then I have only one question to ask you, “WHEN ARE YOU COMING BACK?”.
Here are the things, the goodie bag contained, which SnS gave me when I was leaving.
A neck-lace and ear rings set, a cute mobile pouch, lots of chocolates and loads and loads of love from the SnS family.
P.S: This is to let the entire blog world that SnS is not FAT. All her claiming to be FAT has been proved wrong by the great Tharani who will become, “Thagararu Tharani”if at all she calls herself fat again.
P.S 2: SnS asked me to not to mention her kids as cute and not to inform the blog world that she is not fat. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED 
Bullets and pictures
Posted by: Tharani on: April 29, 2012
1) This happened a few days back
AV: Do you know what I like in you the most?
Me: (Getting ready to blush and all) No.. What?
AV: Your Ear rings..
Me: ??@@@!!!
I have decided not to blog about him any more
2) I met Keer and Kau last saturday. They are super cute. Oh wait, I met SnS too. She asked me not to mention them as cute in the blog post but then can’t help it. My next post is on the blog post.
3) AV is still in his night shifts and also has joined some week-end classes and we hardly get to meet each other. Life will be the same for the next three months.
4)
This is the ME’s pressure cooker cake I baked for the 100th day. I was really happy that it at least looked like a cake and were able to cut it. It tasted good too though it was burnt at the bottom.
5)
We celebrated our nephew’s birthday in a near-by orphanage run by a 23-year-old. I was amazed. Almost 30 kids are taken care by a 23 old. It isn’t an easy job at all. We have decided to visit the place more often.
6)
For all those who wants to know GOOD NEWS, my doggie is pregnant, I am not.
7)
I am back to blogging and this time for sure 
Will come back with more updates. How have you guys been?
Such is my life #7
Posted by: Tharani on: February 22, 2012
These days I get irritated when people ask me questions. Especially these general knowledge kind of questions like, “What is Ash Wednesday?” One of my colleague asked me that as soon as I entered office. Oh well, he first asked me what that ash thing on my forehead, I said, “Today is Ash Wednesday know, I went to church” and prompt came the next question, “What is Ash Wednesday”. Why I got irritated is I don’t know the answer. Ok I know I am a Christian, I go to church regularly. These days I go to Church thrice a week. But I am a Dumbo Christian too. So please don’t ask questions like this ok.
I somehow managed to answer his question by blabbering something for which he replied something in Greek or Latin. When asked what it means, he gave a weird look and said, “This is what Jesus said last before dying in Hebrew. I said, “OH” and hid under the desk before he could ask me some more questions.
Now I am out of “I have to impress you” phase. When I entered this home of AV, there were 8 new faces including two kids and I had to impress all 8 faces including two kids. You know what I mean. The first thought I had was how am I going to impress these kids? When I see kids over-acting or misbehave I pinch them and run away, Ok don’t hate me already, I did that only when I was 13 or 14. Now I don’t pinch them but then I widen my eyes and stick my tongue out making a scary face. When, I did that to one of the kid in the house, he laughed madly and asked me to repeat my action. These kids I say!
Now I am at the phase, “Why the hell should I impress you” which is the most pleasant phase so far as I don’t have to eat the food I hate nor pretend to like something when I actually don’t. I can easily say, “No, Get lost” or I can easily say, “No” and think, “Get lost” in my mind. Me liking it so much.
Me and AV are fighting less these days and we just realized at we are going to complete 100 days of being together. That’s on the 27th of this month. We have planned a small celebration on that day or on the week end after 27th. 100 days didn’t go just like that. I have lived each and every day of it. I have known AV more than what I had known in the nine years of being friends. Yeah such is LOVE. It brings the best and worst out of a person. It brings surprises and shocks when least expected. I have experienced it all in the 100 days and there are much more to come. Wish us guys…
I met the Super Hero!
Posted by: Tharani on: February 13, 2012
I met the Super Hero!!
Yayy.. Err Ok I met Summer Script. No no I didn’t meet her again, Just that I am going write about the blog meet happened in November. Now don’t give me that look. I know I am very late in doing this post but then, now that, I am going to be regular here , I have decided to start recording all the wonderful things happened after that blog break. How I missed recording so many things here. Sigh!. How I wanted to write a elaborate post on the honey moon, How we (Me and AV) missed our flight the last day and decided to open a pani-poori shop in Delhi and settle there itself since we didn’t have money to come back to Chennai, how we lost our camera, how we celebrated our thala christmas, Thala-pongal and the plans to celebrate thala-valentines day, how AV made the yummiest fish fry and my MIL raised her eyes -brows and exclaimed , “I never knew he can cook”, about my new work, new friends, about the presentation I gave in front of the 72 yrs old chair-man. So many things. I going to write about each one of it and to start with, the meeting with the Super Hero.
Once upon a time on a raining November evening.. Err.. I mean last November when it was raining heavily, I was sitting and staring at the rain with hatred and cursing it as I wanted to go back home and I didn’t have an Umbrella, I got a call from SS. We already have exchanged few E mails, shared our numbers and SS said she will coming to Chennai for a friends wedding . God bless the friend. So, on the call we decided that we will meet on Sunday. People, don’t believe her if she says, her age is seven times that of a donkey. Her voice is like a 4th std kid. So cute that.
So the next day I got up, called her up, decided the timing, place, got ready and went to T-nagar. I know this girl is so punctual (I remembered reading that in one of her posts) and didn’t want to land up late and face a pair of staring eyes. I reached on time and waited near a shop and kept looking closly at the girls passing by. She came, flashed a big smile and that moment I fell in love with her eyes. Err do I sound like a mushy mushy girl in love. Those who have seen her will know what I mean.
I wanted to give her a big hug but I was shy. Remember I fell in love and all that. Since I didn’t want to do “Dhorogam” to AV, I controlled my feelings.
We went to A2B and had something I forgot. What was it SS?? Since the place was crowded, we had to leave immediately and went to Sangeetha and had some thing..I forgot.. What was it SS?? Err ok leave it. Tell me what do two bloggers talk when they meet?? About books, blogging, themselves, family, work and all that. But then, what do two craziest bloggers talk when they meet?? They talk about Vijay and Velayudham. Yes yes we did talk about Vijay and all.
Like blog hopping, we did restaurant hopping. After a walk to pondi bazar we went to Mary brown and had something. See I forgot all that we ate. All because of that cartoon eyes I say..
We bid good bye after inviting her to my wedding and No she didn’t come 
. She called me back to ensure if I reached home. Isn’t she a sweet heart. It was great meeting her and SS, the next I meet you, beware, you just can’t escape from my big warm hug
Jan month update
Posted by: Tharani on: February 4, 2012
First of all, the reason for not blogging regularly is not that I don’t get time, its just that I don’t get a system to blog. WP is not working in office and my neice did su-su in AV’s laptop and its not working anymore. Now this guy does su-su only in the costiest things. Now he is eying his dad’s i-phone. Poor him. And there is only one system in the entire house of 9 people and everytime I wanted to blog with a post all written in my mind, one of AV’s brothers would be using it. At one point of time, I lost it and felt like kicking their butt and screaming,”Go, get a life, you have a wife and kid to take care off, All I have is a sleeping husband” Sigh!! So till I find ourselves some money -if at all something remains after paying a hefty loan and buy a lappy, please don’t forget me ok..
Having said that, here is what I did the entire Jan. New year’s eve started off very well with friends getting to gether for a night stay at my home. We prepared some nice chicken curry. When the clock stuck 12.00 I was religiously praying at the saturn that was dancing disco on my head should go away and trouble me not any more. I don’t know if it heard me or not. I can’t see my head you see. So I don’t know if it is still there or gone After 12.00 we girls, made the guys to sleep down and took the bed.The whole night was spent talking and these girls had so many doubts to ask me, since now I am termed, “experienced”.. Boy!!! What fun we had..
After that,days just passed by and the only day when I met my friends was when we went to, “nanban” on Pongal. After that, we were invited for a virundhu by one of our friend. The menu was simple with Sambar, rasam, potato, pongal but it was one special day.
The routine life started with going to office, coming back to a house without AV and some people, whom I still don’t know if I like or not. I am still not feeling at home in my inlaws place and I find every other reason to go to my mom’s place. One day, very recently I got so pissed off that I started from home as usual like going to office, called my boss and told I am not coming and came to my mom’s house. It was on Jan 31st and thats one awesome day I had. All for myself. Evening I met one of my college senior in CCD and we had a great time talking about college, friends and all that.
Now coming to cooking, you guys know that I started cooking and all. The very first day when I made idly and tomato chutney, AV came from his shift early morning and asked on seeing the tomato chutney, if I made Kesari. I was all heart broken and asked him to taste it. When he finished eating, he said, it was carrot chutney. Err how can he be so mean. Thats why, you see I forgot to brush my teeth and all that.
And AV and me are fighting very often these day. When I started to round off the calender, the days when we fight like the “alaypayuthae” style, all the week ends were rounded off, and those are the only days we get to meet each other. Sigh. But these fights are not very serious as we forget all about it, the next day we get up and start of with new one.
Coming to work front, work is going on just fine. Just that the one and a half bike ride-two way is quite tiring.
Jan has not been a bad month at all or I think so, after all the hope that 2012 is going to be better than the last year has not died yet..
So how is 2012 treating you guys????
I won ! I won!
Posted by: Tharani on: January 22, 2012
I have been awarded the Versatile blogger award by Garima and Nancy. You are sweet. Thanks. Many thanks and it means a lot.
The Rules for the Versatile Blogger Award says:
Nominate 15 fellow Bloggers -
Share 7 Random things about yourself -
Thank the Blogger who nominated you
Add the Versatile Blogger Award picture to your Blog Post
Now the nominees:
Chiquita : She is like one child-hood friend. I started reading her during my initial days of blogging. Her letter to Tarot was the first post I read and felt like reading my life then. Such a sweet heart she is.
Megha: She is missing from the blog world for quite some time. Lets see if this award brings her back to blogging.
7 Random facts about me:
1) I am a very bad sleeper. I mean, I kick, talk,sing, snore (Err did I just say that) when sleeping. Most of the nights, AV wakes me up saying, “I am going to fall off from the bed, Move and sleep”. Yeah I kick him like that. During the initial days of our wedding, since AV is doing his night shifts, Me and MIL shared the same room when sleeping. As I was not able to bear her mokkai, I told her, “You snore like a dinosaur, I am going to sleep alone”. Least did she know that I snore too. But if you say that I snore, I will refuse to believe you and say you are lying. AV is trying his best to make me believe I snore. he he
2) I love cockroaches.. when I was a kid, my mom told me that a cockroach cannot upright itself and die on its back. I felt so pavaam for the creature that every time I see a cockroach upside down, I turn it right and see it running happily.
3) I can control any emotions be it anger, happiness anything but irritation sorry no. I will be extremely frank when I am irritated. For ex, when I was sitting in a quarterly review with the vice-president of the company and he kept mispronouncing my name. I was extremely irritated that I threw my pen on the table and corrected him. Everyone in the room was shocked. In one other instance, when my boss kept asking the team for any suggestions for improvement, I said, “You are only fit for talking. What ever suggestion we give, nothing will be implemented then why ask again and again”
4) The one thing, that scares me to death is the fear of losing my consciousness. After every sip of Vodka, I keep asking my partner if I am talking sense and irritate them to the core. Yeah I am really afraid of losing my consciousness when fainting or getting high.
5) I cry when I am extremely happy. Now every body does that know. But the problem is I get extremely happy for very small, silly things like in reality show when some one wins the title, I get extremely emotional and shed some happy tears.
6) I was big big fan of Nyan Mongia and Mark boucher during my teen age years. I had posters of both in my room. I basically love wicket keepers. I don’t know why.
7) I forget things very easily. You know when I started cooking last week, I was so tensed that I forgot to brush my teeth and went to office. I kept my mouth shut the entire day fearing that some one would find out that I didn’t brush.
I am done
Back from the moon
Posted by: Tharani on: December 13, 2011
At the resort in Cheerapunji:
At around 8 PM, the room service knocked our room and informed that the breakfast is placed in the dining room. Me and AV got ready, came, sat and started eating
ME: What are you eating, I ordered poori bhaji for you
AV: I think its poori only.
ME: But why have they served it with honey
AV: I think, people here eat like this only
And I was eating my toast in bliss. Suddenly the manager came with amused look on his face.
AV: Yes
Manager: You are eating the wrong order sir, this is for those foreigners!!!!!
Err. Then I realized AV was eating the pan cake thinking it was Poori
ME: Err. Its so embarrassing. how can you eat a pan cake thinking it is poori
AV: Who knows. All tastes the same here. Even you are eating the wrong order.
ME: Err. But I ordered for fresh toast, This is normal toast. All are same
AV: The foreigners are looking at us. Turn this side and eat
ME: Err ok..
Now, this incident bought so much happiness because when I start cooking soon, I serve anything with any name. AV will EAT
_________________________________________________________________________________________________
At the Railway station in Calcutta (Howrah)
As soon as we got down from the train, AV fell sick. He was down with fever and cold. I went in search for the railway hospital and found one first room and took AV there.
Nurse in Hindi or Bengali or some language: What happened sir?
Me: (AV don’t know hindi at all, I speak hindi as how Namitha speaks tamil) he has fever
Nurse: (Checks the temperature and prescribes some tablets) Take this tablet ok, One after lunch and one after dinner.
Me: Ok, Thank you.. How much??
Nurse: Your wish madam
Me: (I see the prescription and was much impressed by what was written, offered her 50 Rs)
So we go to the medical shop and the shop keeper after looking at the prescription, took Crocin and gave us.
ME: But this is Crocin
Him: Yes madam, This is what is written here.
Me and AV: Errr what!!!!!
Now this lady did all those acting like one doctor and also got 50 Rs for prescribing Crocin.. A big Sigh!!!
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
At the Police bazaar market in Shillong, Meghalaya.
AV: (Points at a knife and few spoons) How much is it?
The guy (In Khasi language) 150 rs
AV: English english
The guy: 150 Rs
AV: No no only 80 Rs
The guy: No no (all in action)
AV: No No only 80 Rs.
The guy: no no
This went on for a while and finally the guy was not able to bear AV’s,” No no only 80 rs”, agreed to sell it to us.
AV was very happy, gave him the money.
As we walked a few steps,
Me: Where are the things we bought
AV: Err I left in the shop itself
And he ran back to see the guy laughing at us like anything
___________________________________________________________________________________________________
At the Indira Gandhi Airport, New Delhi
After finishing all the formalities, baggage checking, human checking and all that our hand baggage was caught during the check as we had placed the knife (we got in Meghalaya after all those bargaining) in it.
The security office: You can not carry knife in hand bags
AV: Oh, sorry we forgot to place in the baggage.
Officer: We can not do anything, we will no allow it
AV: What should I do now
Officer: You need to do all the formalities again and go check if you can place it in the baggage. But it is sent already, we can’t do anything.
Me: Leave the knife know, its only 30 Rs
The most worried AV: No no I want it.
Runs back, does all the formalities. since the bags were already sent, he convinces the people there to send the knife as a separate bag all packed and comes back all happy.
At the place where we pick up our bags in Guwahati
AV: Where is the knife
Me: How do I know..
We waited for almost half an hr but the knife never came.
Me (to the much disappointed AV): That’s why you need to listen to your wife. I asked you to leave it know. See you took so much effort and see it is lost now.
AV: Sigh!!!
__________________________________________________________________________________________________
I’m finished
Posted by: Tharani on: November 21, 2011
Errr . No people. Marriage is finished… And still I have time to blog, See life has not changed at all after marriage. I know, I have to include “So far” with the above statement
Can you spot AV and me in the picture ???
The moment I said, “Yes” to AV. Can I get back that moment ????
I would really like to thank RM and Vidya for the super special first gift..
And Thank you summer script.. I read the post. That was very sweet and Thanks again RM for the mention in the post. You guys are making me cry now!!! Love you all you blogger friends who wished me good luck. The marriage did went well. Will come back soon. Take care dearies
Such is my life 3 or 4 (I forgot)
Posted by: Tharani on: November 14, 2011
Now that I am back, let me announce that I am going for the next blog break. Arey this time for the wedding.. So will be back blogging full-time from december onwards. promise okay.
Here are some updates of what I was doing all these days.
1) I was searching for a job. Yeah I know, you guys are thinking that I am crazy. But I didn’t want to go to this sickening office anymore without any work. If at all I have to go there, it has to be only to put down my papers (Not the Hindu one). I went to this interview and for every answer I said, the interviewer removed his specs and wiped his eyes. I seriously screwed it. But I got through.. So After wedding I am joining there.
2) My wedding preps are almost over and all that I am doing now is going to parlour and beautifying me.He he he. Here are few pics of the wedding shopping done.
This is my wedding gown. I am wearing it over a T shirt. Taken during the trial. And SnS this is what I got in Pondi Not that I didn’t find any in chennai, but there where very costly. When I was roaming in Nehru street I saw this shop and just walked in. They designed me the gown and gave all the accessories as compliment cool na..
The invite
My reception saree and the matching accessories to go with the saree
This is for the gown. I am still in doubt if it will go well with the gown
3) Something old, something new, somthing blue and something borrowed is one custom that Chiquita reminded me in one of her comments. Something old-I am taking all my old things from home, something new, I have got so many things new for the wedding which mostly includes clothes, something blue-my wedding theme is blue so what ever I got for the wedding was in blue but I wanted to get something exclusive and I found this in one of the shops in Trichi which had this tag, “Buy one, get one free”. So me and my sis got one each.
Now something borrowed made me think. I have to borrow something from one happy couple I know. Hmmm, I didn’t find any around. I am the first among friends to get married so there is no young couple I know and one of my school friend who is married, when I last met her almost a year back told me, “Tharani don’t ever get married, if you want to postpone it as long as possible”. But when I came to type this post, I realized, the blog world is filled with happy couples all around. So all you happy couples out there beware, I might come and snatch something from your household anytime soon.
4)In between all these, I got my first kiss, Okay here I am not going to elaborate this as I don’t want all your kids to grow up, read this and mock at me saying, “What you guys have been knowing each other for 9 years and you only got your first kiss now”..I just wanted it to happen before marriage and it happened..Some thrill in life I wanted.
5) And in between all these, I met summerscript, She is one cute girl with cute cartoon eyes. Ok now this deserves a separate post which I will do it after wedding ok.
Ok with this I am leaving you, As I said before, I will be back in december, So when I am back, I will be newly wedded, will have a new home,a new job and an old AV. Errrr…
Happy birthday!
You OK??
